When it comes to dating, looks always matters. It probably matter to some guys because it's what they first see before they get the chance to talk to the girl. Women really feels insecure about their looks especially when they get to meet some guy for the first time. According to an article "Is Makeup Good or Bad for Your Sexual and Dating Self-Esteem?" by Seth Meyers, dating for women is often made more difficult and more uncomfortable because of the pressure many of them feel to meet a certain standard of attractiveness and thinness. There is this double standard that exist for women in terms of dating.
Meyers said, "I always tell my clients that one of the best ways to get over certain fears or hang-ups is to face the fears head on, in the most direct way possible. Instead of giving those fears and insecurities about attractiveness so much power, I suggest that women consider giving themselves more of a break and challenging some of those societal expectations on a first date." I think this statement is true, women should face their fear that they are lacking on something just because they feel that they are not good enough. When two people are in a relationship, I bet that having the looks doesn't really matter, because as long as both of them gets along well, I think it is enough to make their relationship work. I think being attractive physically is just a bonus in terms of being in a relationship, and it shouldn't be the other way around.
According to another article "Want to be taken seriously ladies? Wear make-up!" by Samhita, women already know that they live in a culture where they are judged by what they look like- they don't need a multi-institution study to tell them that. Just walk down the street the street or into a meeting with or without makeup on, or with a messy hair, or wearing less flattering as opposed to more flattering clothing. Not only will it make a difference on how you are perceived, but most likely on how you perceive yourself. As women, we know all too well the cost of not living up to what we are supposed to look like.
Samhita said, "I don't know that it necessarily matters- we have enough sense to know that it is generally unfair for a woman to be judged for how much makeup she is wearing as opposed to the content of her character. Doesn't take a scientist to figure out that studies like this have a rather unfortunate confirmation bias: that sexism is an inherent state of being." it is very unfair that women gets to be treated this way, by being judged for how much makeup she is wearing rather than what's really important. Wearing a very light makeup can help a lot, it just helps in a way that its not too overpowering.
I have also read an article entitled "On Men Who Don't Like Women in Makeup" by Emily McCombs, makeup is about enhancing beauty, not covering up ugly. The only person we're obligated to please with what we put on our heads, bodies, or faces is ourselves. Some guys say that they don't like girls who puts on a lot of makeup but once they turn their backs and somehow see a model or an actress, they suddenly change their minds in just a snap.
McCombs said, "I'm dubious that men have even the slightest idea what they're talking about when they say "no makeup" . I hypothesize that they actually don't know the difference between no makeup and natural makeup." I think it just so happens there are some men that doesn't like their girlfriend wearing makeup or they probably just don't understand why we need it anyway. Women just loves to wear makeup and whatever men say about it, women just don't care because women just can't seem to let it go.
There is nothing wrong with wearing makeup. It shouldn't be a major factor to both parties to argue about, because there is really nothing to argue about. Women just can't keep their hands off their makeup, because makeup is their weapon in this battle against how they are perceived.It's up to her if she wants to wear makeup or be bare-faced. It really shouldn't matter whether or not a girl wears makeup, it's all about on how she handles herself in front of a guy is what's more important.
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